Healthy boundaries are often misunderstood. Many people think boundaries are about controlling other people’s behavior, when in reality they are deeply connected to emotional regulation, self-esteem, and understanding what we do and do not have to absorb from others. These…
Sometimes we can feel that something is “off” emotionally before we actually have the words to explain what’s happening. Feelings like shame, embarrassment, self-doubt, or feeling “Less Than” can show up in our bodies and reactions before we fully understand…
The Vickey Difference Let’s clear something up: Self-confidence is not the same thing as self-esteem. They’re related, sure. But they are not interchangeable. And mistaking one for the other can lead to all kinds of emotional whiplash. So let’s break…
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…
Many people struggle to communicate their needs, feelings, and boundaries in healthy ways. Some people lean toward passiveness and avoid speaking up for themselves, while others move toward aggression in an attempt to feel heard or in control. Healthy assertiveness…
Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…
Many people grow up believing their worth comes from achievements, appearance, success, productivity, or what other people think of them. Because of this, the term “self-esteem” is often misunderstood and tied to outside validation instead of inherent worth. Today, I…
I talk a lot about the link between Healthy Self Esteem and Healthy Decision Making. Making decisions from your Healthy Center, not from a place of Better Than or Less Than, means you can make a decision confidently because you’re…
Most people that I know of have seen the movie “Encanto” by now. I am not giving *any* spoilers…but if you haven’t seen it and see it after this, this email might give you a different perspective on it. The more you…
A little while ago, I did a video and blog on how I was inspired by the movie Encanto to talk about the sister, Luisa. Luisa bases her self worth on her strength, and I saw that as Attribute and…