What is Discernment?
It is the ability to understand what is really your “stuff” and what is not – what is the other person’s. Discernment is a part of boundaries. Discernment is the ability to know the answers to these two questions: If…
Category Boundaries
Do You Feel Confident at Work…But Steamrolled at Home?
This is a situation I see all the time with my clients: women who are killin’ it at work, but at home with their spouse, kids, family, and friends, they feel steamrolled, disrespected, or unappreciated—they don’t know how to set…
Why Aren’t You Speaking Your Mind at Home?
I want to tell you about the concrete link on how our self esteem directly affects our decision making. How it holds us back from making the healthy decisions that we know in our gut to be right for us.…
Boundaries…They Aren’t What you Think!
I want you to change the way you look at Boundaries.I want you to change the way you’ve been looking at Boundaries for your entire life. Working with me, you are going to begin to only see Boundaries as the…
Eventually, We Get Tapped Out
“You can only care about other people’s stuff so much.” A client said this in session and I wrote it down. I just found it to be such a powerful statement. This, my friends, is a great pro-boundary statement. For…
Imposter Syndrome? Or Low Self Esteem?
Imposter Syndrome? Or low Self-Esteem? They are so similar and often confused. Kind of like how all rectangles are squares and not all squares are rectangles. Imposter syndrome is always low Self-Esteem. Low Self-Esteem is not always Imposter Syndrome. Here’s…
Boundaries…They Aren’t What You Think!
I want you to change the way you look at Boundaries.I want you to change the way you’ve been looking at Boundaries for your entire life. Working with me, you are going to begin to only see Boundaries as the…
Henry Winkler, aka The Fonz
I was in the car a few weeks ago and there was an interview with Henry Winkler. If you don’t know him by name, he was Fonzie on Happy Days. They asked him about why he’s so willing to talk…
What do Monster Truck Tires have to do with an Anniversary Dinner?
Cheesy as it sounds, there is such inner peace when you have healthy self esteem and healthy boundaries, and that peace leads to healthy and easy decision-making. Last week was our 15th wedding anniversary and we were deciding what to…
The Three Modes of Negotiation
Relational Life Therapy Recognizes Three Modes of Negotiation: Invitation Request Demand An Invitation is all about the other person. I “invite” you to do this and it is completely up to you if you participate or not. I was watching…