Hey there! Today, I want to dive into a topic that’s not just fascinating but incredibly useful when it comes to understanding yourself and others better: brain states. This concept draws from the work of some brilliant minds like Terry…
Big T traumas are the known and spoken abuses and traumas: Little t traumas are the other stuff. I heard this definition of trauma: “overwhelm plus alone.” I mention elsewhere on this site that my 10yr old son may have…
Katherine Center has become one of my new favorite authors. I have read two of her books and I am currently reading the third. This book is called “What You Wish For.” Samantha, known as Sam, is the main character.We…
It is the ability to understand what is really your “stuff” and what is not – what is the other person’s. Discernment is a part of boundaries. Discernment is the ability to know the answers to these two questions: If…
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I responded…
Step out of the Contempt Cycle—for YOU! When you are angry, judgmental, or gossipy, you are in The Contempt Cycle—where you are feeling Better Than or Less Than others. And it’s not a healthy, balanced place to be! What if…
Yet again, I was reading an article that interested me. Funny, it actually wasn’t even just the article that I wanted to write about; it was one of the comments. The article had this quote: “Seeking affirmation or fulfillment in…
Does it seem strange that you could hurt someone else when you’re in low self esteem? One of my therapy couples—the husband, Brandon—had been out of work for awhile and was feeling pretty down on himself for not enjoying that…
If you find yourself in “Less Than” mode, here are 3 things you can do to feel better RIGHT NOW. In this video, I will tell you all about how these tips work to bring you back into balance!
We have friends who recently had a baby. I kept saying “Oh, there’s this great baby book on self esteem that I want to get for them.” God bless my husband. What he thought (sarcastically), and did not say, was “oh, that…