Big T vs Little t Trauma
Big T traumas are the known and spoken abuses and traumas: Little t traumas are the other stuff. I heard this definition of trauma: “overwhelm plus alone.” I mention elsewhere on this site that my 10yr old son may have…
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What You Wish For
Katherine Center has become one of my new favorite authors. I have read two of her books and I am currently reading the third. This book is called “What You Wish For.” Samantha, known as Sam, is the main character.We…
Connection vs. Worth
Yet again, I was reading an article that interested me. Funny, it actually wasn’t even just the article that I wanted to write about; it was one of the comments. The article had this quote: “Seeking affirmation or fulfillment in…
What if You Can’t Find the Words?
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…
Self Esteem vs Self Confidence
The Vickey Difference What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence? Are they the same thing? Are they different? Do they overlap? They aren’t the same thing, they are different, and I don’t even think I’d call it…
Judgment vs. Contempt
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…
Passive vs Assertive vs Aggressive
We’re all familiar with what “passive” and “aggressive” mean—the two extremes—where one is a person who feels “Less Than” and doesn’t speak from their healthy center about their needs, feelings, and desires, and the other is someone acting from a…
You’re Allowed to Mess Up
Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…
Where Does Self Esteem Come From? What is Inherent Worth?
Today, I want to go back to basics. A quick review: I love to talk about Self Esteem. And the “outside sources” of Self Esteem fit with my name: Vickey Easa. E is for Esteem A is for Achievements S is for…
Why Are You Afraid to Make Decisions? Perfectionism.
I talk a lot about the link between Healthy Self Esteem and Healthy Decision Making. Making decisions from your Healthy Center, not from a place of Better Than or Less Than, means you can make a decision confidently because you’re…