Why do you think you're coming to therapy?
Depression, Anxiety, Mood Issues, Self Esteem, Negative Thought and Behavioral Patterns
You want to learn why you do what you do. Why you act the way you act. Why you feel the way you feel.
And I want to help you learn that.
Why do you think you're coming to therapy?
Depression, Anxiety, Mood Issues, Self Esteem, Negative Thought and Behavioral Patterns
You want to learn why you do what you do. Why you act the way you act. Why you feel the way you feel.
And I want to help you learn that.
What will I actually help you with?
We’ll go deeper than the standard “Change the way you look at things and you’ll change the way you feel about them.”
I’m not knocking that approach. That WAS my therapeutic approach until a couple of years ago. Now I help my clients dig much deeper.
We (you and I, together) ask: “How do I look at things?”
Then we add: “WHY do I look at things this way?”
These are the “aha” moments we have in therapy.
What are the subconscious stories and how did they get there?
The more I’m learning about trauma treatment (including my own history, to be honest), the more it amazes me how we all function in this world. I am becoming more and more curious: what are the unknown, subconscious statements that are taking over at times, statements that we don’t realize?
My “About Me” page says “Tell me your stories; allow me to help you uncover the roots of your pain.” Day by day I become more skilled at helping you find those roots. It blows my mind what I am able to help my clients uncover in our sessions. Contact me today; I am so excited to walk with you on this path.
And I have a request: I mentioned “trauma treatment” above. Please don’t get bogged down in that term. I believe trauma is anything that your brain deemed traumatic when you were younger.
Do I believe in coddling?
No, absolutely not.
Do I believe in addressing and uncovering?
Yes, absolutely.
I firmly believe it’s possible (likely, even) that 20 years from now my son (currently 10yrs old) will decide that me turning off the TV when he didn’t want me to was a traumatic event. Maybe in that moment, he learned “my mommy doesn’t care about what I want.” Or maybe he learned “nothing ever goes my way.” This is what I mean by the *subconscious stories* that run our lives. Allow me to help you find yours. Trust me, we all have them.
These subconscious stories are part of the makeup of our relationship with ourselves.
You read that right: we are all in relationship with ourselves, as well as in relationship with other people.
What will I actually help you with?
We’ll go deeper than the standard “Change the way you look at things and you’ll change the way you feel about them.”
I’m not knocking that approach. That WAS my therapeutic approach until a couple of years ago. Now I help my clients dig much deeper.
We (you and I, together) ask: “How do I look at things?”
Then we add: “WHY do I look at things this way?”
These are the “aha” moments we have in therapy.
What are the subconscious stories and how did they get there?
The more I’m learning about trauma treatment (including my own history, to be honest), the more it amazes me how we all function in this world. I am becoming more and more curious: what are the unknown, subconscious statements that are taking over at times, statements that we don’t realize?
My “About Me” page says “Tell me your stories; allow me to help you uncover the roots of your pain.” Day by day I become more skilled at helping you find those roots. It blows my mind what I am able to help my clients uncover in our sessions. Contact me today; I am so excited to walk with you on this path.
And I have a request: I mentioned “trauma treatment” above. Please don’t get bogged down in that term. I believe trauma is anything that your brain deemed traumatic when you were younger.
Do I believe in coddling?
No, absolutely not.
Do I believe in addressing and uncovering?
Yes, absolutely.
I firmly believe it’s possible (likely, even) that 20 years from now my son (currently 10yrs old) will decide that me turning off the TV when he didn’t want me to was a traumatic event. Maybe in that moment, he learned “my mommy doesn’t care about what I want.” Or maybe he learned “nothing ever goes my way.” This is what I mean by the *subconscious stories* that run our lives. Allow me to help you find yours. Trust me, we all have them.
These subconscious stories are part of the makeup of our relationship with ourselves.
You read that right: we are all in relationship with ourselves, as well as in relationship with other people.
I'm a relationship therapist
Let me tell you a story:
A previous client resumed this week. I’ve seen him individually and I’ve seen him together with his wife. They’re struggling. He said, sadly, “What does it mean about me that I’m seeing a ‘marriage therapist’ by myself?”
I responded with “Let me correct you. I’m not a ‘marriage therapist.’ I’m a ‘relationship therapist’ and we’re going to work on your relationship with yourself. We’re going to focus way more on your relationship with YOU than we did when you saw me last.”
This is the work I do: your relationship with YOU. (And trust me, as you work on you, all of your other relationships will shift as well. Picture the spokes on a bicycle: as one changes, it changes everything else)
Why do you look at yourself the way you do?
Why do you look at others the way you do?
As I mentioned above, the answers to these questions live in the subconscious stories that are running your life that you’re not even aware of.
I’ll help you bring those thoughts to consciousness and rewrite them. To give you a new story, and see where that story goes.
We aren’t going to just create a new perspective. We’re going to dig deeper. We’re going to lean into all of your conflicting thoughts and feelings. We’re going to listen to all of those different voices going on inside.
These voices don’t make you crazy. They make you human. We all have them; they really are normal.
And they are all trying to tell you something.
And by tuning into them, we can listen for the messages they carry.
You’re no longer alone with this. I’m in this with you. Allow me to guide you.
I'm a relationship therapist
Let me tell you a story:
A previous client resumed this week. I’ve seen him individually and I’ve seen him together with his wife. They’re struggling. He said, sadly, “What does it mean about me that I’m seeing a ‘marriage therapist’ by myself?”
I responded with “Let me correct you. I’m not a ‘marriage therapist.’ I’m a ‘relationship therapist’ and we’re going to work on your relationship with yourself. We’re going to focus way more on your relationship with YOU than we did when you saw me last.”
This is the work I do: your relationship with YOU. (And trust me, as you work on you, all of your other relationships will shift as well. Picture the spokes on a bicycle: as one changes, it changes everything else)
Why do you look at yourself the way you do?
Why do you look at others the way you do?
As I mentioned above, the answers to these questions live in the subconscious stories that are running your life that you’re not even aware of.
I’ll help you bring those thoughts to consciousness and rewrite them. To give you a new story, and see where that story goes.
We aren’t going to just create a new perspective. We’re going to dig deeper. We’re going to lean into all of your conflicting thoughts and feelings. We’re going to listen to all of those different voices going on inside.
These voices don’t make you crazy. They make you human. We all have them; they really are normal.
And they are all trying to tell you something.
And by tuning into them, we can listen for the messages they carry.
You’re no longer alone with this. I’m in this with you. Allow me to guide you.