Why Aren’t You Speaking Your Mind at Home?
I want to tell you about the concrete link on how our self esteem directly affects our decision making. How it holds us back from making the healthy decisions that we know in our gut to be right for us.…
Category Self Esteem
What if You Can’t Find the Words for How You Feel?
Sometimes we can feel that something is “off” emotionally before we actually have the words to explain what’s happening. Feelings like shame, embarrassment, self-doubt, or feeling “Less Than” can show up in our bodies and reactions before we fully understand…
Self Esteem vs Self Confidence
The Vickey Difference Let’s clear something up: Self-confidence is not the same thing as self-esteem. They’re related, sure. But they are not interchangeable. And mistaking one for the other can lead to all kinds of emotional whiplash. So let’s break…
Judgment vs. Contempt
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…
Passive vs Assertive vs Aggressive Communication
Many people struggle to communicate their needs, feelings, and boundaries in healthy ways. Some people lean toward passiveness and avoid speaking up for themselves, while others move toward aggression in an attempt to feel heard or in control. Healthy assertiveness…
You’re Allowed to Mess Up
Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…
Where Does Self Esteem Come From? What is Inherent Worth?
Many people grow up believing their worth comes from achievements, appearance, success, productivity, or what other people think of them. Because of this, the term “self-esteem” is often misunderstood and tied to outside validation instead of inherent worth. Today, I…
Why Are You Afraid to Make Decisions? Perfectionism.
I talk a lot about the link between Healthy Self Esteem and Healthy Decision Making. Making decisions from your Healthy Center, not from a place of Better Than or Less Than, means you can make a decision confidently because you’re…
I Found the Greatest Love of All…
I typically talk about therapy only and how the concepts of Less Than and Better Than affect our lives. And that is still true, and that’s what I’m going to talk about today. But today I’m adding a different focal…
Your Worth is NOT Your Facebook
Let’s talk about Instagram and Facebook. And the views, and the likes, and the follows. (First off, specifically, I’d like to call out if you know any teenagers, I would love for your to show them this or watch my video…