Why Bother Learning This New Skill?
I went skiing this weekend. I’m not exaggerating when I tell you the last time I skied was 30 years ago. My church youth group went on a ski trip. I don’t remember having lessons—although I look back now and…
Category Self Esteem
Boundaries…They Aren’t What You Think!
I want you to change the way you look at Boundaries.I want you to change the way you’ve been looking at Boundaries for your entire life. Working with me, you are going to begin to only see Boundaries as the…
Henry Winkler, aka The Fonz
I was in the car a few weeks ago and there was an interview with Henry Winkler. If you don’t know him by name, he was Fonzie on Happy Days. They asked him about why he’s so willing to talk…
The three core “tenants” of Relational Life Therapy
I believe there are three core “tenants” of Relational Life Therapy. Everything else we discuss are skills that are used to work towards these tenants. The tenants are the following, in no particular order: *Living a Non-Violent Life: this means…
Is Self Esteem Pseudo-science?
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I…
This is how I survived that house
This is how I survived that house. When I said that statement in session this week, I was specifically referring to myself and my client at that moment. And then I realized the sentence likely serves for most people. “That…
Practice makes perfect…
Let’s talk in cliché’s for a moment: Easier said than done. Practice makes perfect. When teaching new skills to my clients, new ways of thinking, and/or new behaviors, I often hear “Well, that’s easier said than done.” No, it’s not.…
Shame vs Guilt
Let’s look again at guilt vs shame. According to Brene Brown, “guilt” is behaviorable and actionable, “fixable.” **I did a bad thing “Shame,” on the other hand, is character-ological (is that a word? ), it’s who I am **I am…
Some Thoughts on the Movie “Soul”
Who’s seen the movie “Soul?” If you haven’t, what I’m posting here shouldn’t give anything away… For those who have, that scene near the end, where 22 is talking to herself really spoke to me: *I’m not good enough. Nope.…
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