The Vickey Difference Let’s clear something up: Self-confidence is not the same thing as self-esteem. They’re related, sure. But they are not interchangeable. And mistaking one for the other can lead to all kinds of emotional whiplash. So let’s break…
Imposter Syndrome? Or low Self-Esteem? They are so similar and often confused. Kind of like how all rectangles are squares and not all squares are rectangles. Imposter syndrome is always low Self-Esteem. Low Self-Esteem is not always Imposter Syndrome. Here’s…
Fun fact: I sell Beautycounter. I’m not very good at it, but I enjoy the social aspect of it, and that’s why I do it. Recently, I went to a meet-and-greet here in Boston featuring Gregg Renfrew, Founder and CEO…
What do I mean by: “Give your ‘yes’ freely or don’t give it at all”? I’m referring to when you say “yes” to something when you really want to say “no”. And when you say “yes” because you want other…
I went skiing this weekend. I’m not exaggerating when I tell you the last time I skied was 30 years ago. My church youth group went on a ski trip. I don’t remember having lessons—although I look back now and…
I want you to change the way you look at Boundaries.I want you to change the way you’ve been looking at Boundaries for your entire life. Working with me, you are going to begin to only see Boundaries as the…
I was in the car a few weeks ago and there was an interview with Henry Winkler. If you don’t know him by name, he was Fonzie on Happy Days. They asked him about why he’s so willing to talk…
I believe there are three core “tenants” of Relational Life Therapy. Everything else we discuss are skills that are used to work towards these tenants. The tenants are the following, in no particular order: *Living a Non-Violent Life: this means…
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I…
This is how I survived that house. When I said that statement in session this week, I was specifically referring to myself and my client at that moment. And then I realized the sentence likely serves for most people. “That…