Why Aren’t You Speaking Your Mind at Home?
I want to tell you about the concrete link on how our self esteem directly affects our decision making. How it holds us back from making the healthy decisions that we know in our gut to be right for us.…
Category Self Esteem
What if You Can’t Find the Words?
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…
Self Esteem vs Self Confidence
The Vickey Difference Let’s clear something up: Self-confidence is not the same thing as self-esteem. They’re related, sure. But they are not interchangeable. And mistaking one for the other can lead to all kinds of emotional whiplash. So let’s break…
Judgment vs. Contempt
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…
You’re Allowed to Mess Up
Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…
Where Does Self Esteem Come From? What is Inherent Worth?
Today, I want to go back to basics. A quick review: I love to talk about Self Esteem. And the “outside sources” of Self Esteem fit with my name: Vickey Easa. E is for Esteem A is for Achievements S is for…
Why Are You Afraid to Make Decisions? Perfectionism.
I talk a lot about the link between Healthy Self Esteem and Healthy Decision Making. Making decisions from your Healthy Center, not from a place of Better Than or Less Than, means you can make a decision confidently because you’re…
I Found the Greatest Love of All…
I typically talk about therapy only and how the concepts of Less Than and Better Than affect our lives. And that is still true, and that’s what I’m going to talk about today. But today I’m adding a different focal…
Your Worth is NOT Your Facebook
Let’s talk about Instagram and Facebook. And the views, and the likes, and the follows. (First off, specifically, I’d like to call out if you know any teenagers, I would love for your to show them this or watch my video…
When I’ve “Made It”, Then I’ll be Happy
A couple of months ago I saw a comedy special by the comedian, Gary Gulman. He spoke at a therapist seminar we therapists call “The Symposium.” He was speaking about a period of depression he went through in his routine,…