If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ve probably heard me talk about self-esteem—and how we often learn to base it on external factors: achievements, others’ approval, how we look, or what we own. But I want to add…
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I responded…
Step out of the Contempt Cycle—for YOU! When you are angry, judgmental, or gossipy, you are in The Contempt Cycle—where you are feeling Better Than or Less Than others. And it’s not a healthy, balanced place to be! What if…
Does it seem strange that you could hurt someone else when you’re in low self esteem? One of my therapy couples—the husband, Brandon—had been out of work for awhile and was feeling pretty down on himself for not enjoying that…
If you find yourself in “Less Than” mode, here are 3 things you can do to feel better RIGHT NOW. In this video, I will tell you all about how these tips work to bring you back into balance!
A friend of mine once said something that’s stuck with me:“You are what you eat… except, what if it’s actually you are what you consume?” Think about that for a second. If “consume” includes everything your brain takes in—not just…
This is a situation I see all the time with my clients: women who are killin’ it at work, but at home with their spouse, kids, family, and friends, they feel steamrolled, disrespected, or unappreciated—they don’t know how to set…
I want to tell you about the concrete link on how our self esteem directly affects our decision making. How it holds us back from making the healthy decisions that we know in our gut to be right for us.…
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…
The Vickey Difference Let’s clear something up: Self-confidence is not the same thing as self-esteem. They’re related, sure. But they are not interchangeable. And mistaking one for the other can lead to all kinds of emotional whiplash. So let’s break…