Where Rigidity Lives—and Where Nuance Begins Let’s explore a simple but powerful concept that can help you better understand your brain and how you respond to the world around you. Imagine your brain as a hand. This idea comes from…
The Salt Story: Understanding Emotional Responses in Relationships When I first encountered Dr. Dan Siegel’s hand model of the brain, coupled with insights from Terry Real and Robin Gobbel, it felt like a lightbulb moment. Their explanations about how our…
Hey there! Today, I want to dive into a topic that’s not just fascinating but incredibly useful when it comes to understanding yourself and others better: brain states. This concept draws from the work of some brilliant minds like Terry…
I have a previous blog post on the three things we’re all looking for in our partner: You can read the whole thing here. I’ve heard this called “We’re all actually looking for the Divine.” Historically, I’ve agreed with this. …
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There’s something counter-intuitive about a healthy marriage… we have to get healthy and make the changes FOR OURSELVES, not for our spouses. I know how weird that sounds, yet hear me out and it will make sense. When we make…
What a treat! My close friend, podcast partner, and Bootcamp co-facilitator (Rebecca Wong) hosts her own podcast at Connectfulness.com. A couple of weeks ago, she interviewed me for it. It wasn’t really an “interview,” so much as the two of…
I believe there are three core “tenants” of Relational Life Therapy. Everything else we discuss are skills that are used to work towards these tenants. The tenants are the following, in no particular order: *Living a Non-Violent Life: this means…
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Cheesy as it sounds, there is such inner peace when you have healthy self esteem and healthy boundaries, and that peace leads to healthy and easy decision-making. Last week was our 15th wedding anniversary and we were deciding what to…