What if You Can’t Find the Words?

Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…

Self Esteem vs Self Confidence

The Vickey Difference What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence? Are they the same thing? Are they different? Do they overlap? They aren’t the same thing, they are different, and I don’t even think I’d call it…

Judgment vs. Contempt

As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…

Passive vs Assertive vs Aggressive

We’re all familiar with what “passive” and “aggressive” mean—the two extremes—where one is a person who feels “Less Than” and doesn’t speak from their healthy center about their needs, feelings, and desires, and the other is someone acting from a…

You’re Allowed to Mess Up

Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…

Nobody’s Perfect

A little while ago, I did a video and blog on how I was inspired by the movie Encanto to talk about the sister, Luisa. Luisa bases her self worth on her strength, and I saw that as Attribute and…

I found the Greatest Love of All…

I typically talk about therapy only and how the concepts of Less Than and Better Than affect our lives. And that is still true, and that’s what I’m going to talk about today.  But today I’m adding a different focal…