I We hear a lot about boundaries these days.“Set boundaries.”“Protect your peace.”“Block toxic people.” But here’s the thing: a lot of what we call “boundaries” are actually something else entirely. Let’s clear it up. Wait, That’s Not a Boundary? If…
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…
The Vickey Difference Let’s clear something up: Self-confidence is not the same thing as self-esteem. They’re related, sure. But they are not interchangeable. And mistaking one for the other can lead to all kinds of emotional whiplash. So let’s break…
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…
We’re all familiar with what “passive” and “aggressive” mean—the two extremes—where one is a person who feels “Less Than” and doesn’t speak from their healthy center about their needs, feelings, and desires, and the other is someone acting from a…
Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…
Today, I want to go back to basics. A quick review: I love to talk about Self Esteem. And the “outside sources” of Self Esteem fit with my name: Vickey Easa. E is for Esteem A is for Achievements S is for…
I talk a lot about the link between Healthy Self Esteem and Healthy Decision Making. Making decisions from your Healthy Center, not from a place of Better Than or Less Than, means you can make a decision confidently because you’re…
Most people that I know of have seen the movie “Encanto” by now. I am not giving *any* spoilers…but if you haven’t seen it and see it after this, this email might give you a different perspective on it. The more you…
A little while ago, I did a video and blog on how I was inspired by the movie Encanto to talk about the sister, Luisa. Luisa bases her self worth on her strength, and I saw that as Attribute and…