Why Aren’t You Speaking Your Mind at Home?
I want to tell you about the concrete link on how our self esteem directly affects our decision making. How it holds us back from making the healthy decisions that we know in our gut to be right for us.…
Boundaries…They Aren’t What you Think!
I want you to change the way you look at Boundaries.I want you to change the way you’ve been looking at Boundaries for your entire life. Working with me, you are going to begin to only see Boundaries as the…
What if You Can’t Find the Words?
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…
Self Esteem vs Self Confidence
The Vickey Difference What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence? Are they the same thing? Are they different? Do they overlap? They aren’t the same thing, they are different, and I don’t even think I’d call it…
Judgment vs. Contempt
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…
Passive vs Assertive vs Aggressive
We’re all familiar with what “passive” and “aggressive” mean—the two extremes—where one is a person who feels “Less Than” and doesn’t speak from their healthy center about their needs, feelings, and desires, and the other is someone acting from a…
You’re Allowed to Mess Up
Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…
Where Does Self Esteem Come From? What is Inherent Worth?
Today, I want to go back to basics. A quick review: I love to talk about Self Esteem. And the “outside sources” of Self Esteem fit with my name: Vickey Easa. E is for Esteem A is for Achievements S is for…
Why Are You Afraid to Make Decisions? Perfectionism.
I talk a lot about the link between Healthy Self Esteem and Healthy Decision Making. Making decisions from your Healthy Center, not from a place of Better Than or Less Than, means you can make a decision confidently because you’re…
Achievement-Based Esteem and…Encanto?
Most people that I know of have seen the movie “Encanto” by now. I am not giving *any* spoilers…but if you haven’t seen it and see it after this, this email might give you a different perspective on it. The more you…