Opening up emotionally can feel overwhelming, especially when past experiences, communication struggles, or fear of vulnerability get in the way. I’ve worked with many individuals and couples here in Massachusetts, and I’ve seen firsthand how therapy can help you gently…
There’s a word we therapists use all the time—but when I try to explain it to family and friends (even my husband!), it doesn’t always land the way I hope. That word? Regulated. If you’ve been in therapy spaces, chances…
We’re all familiar with what “passive” and “aggressive” mean—the two extremes—where one is a person who feels “Less Than” and doesn’t speak from their healthy center about their needs, feelings, and desires, and the other is someone acting from a…
Most people that I know of have seen the movie “Encanto” by now. I am not giving *any* spoilers…but if you haven’t seen it and see it after this, this email might give you a different perspective on it. The more you…
A little while ago, I did a video and blog on how I was inspired by the movie Encanto to talk about the sister, Luisa. Luisa bases her self worth on her strength, and I saw that as Attribute and…
Earlier this week, it occurred to me that in all my videos and blogs I have done on inherent self-worth versus outside sources of self esteem, I have never explained why this new lens doesn’t come naturally. Why we adults…
I was listening to the podcast We Do Hard Things and they were interviewing Dr. Becky (Parenting Psychologist- find her at ) and discussing her concept of “Good Inside”. I realized a while into it that her concept of “good inside”…
Something really funny and kind of embarrassing happened when my assistant posted one of my reels to Instagram the other day, and it reminded me how I would have handled it back before I started using what I now call…
Today’s post is short and sweet: You matter. It occurred to me in one of my early morning sessions today that somebody out there reading or watching my content needed to hear that. You are enough and you matter. You have…
This week, someone brought to my attention some questions on the Better Than or Less Than positions that I talk about. Keep in mind: Inherent Self Worth is in the middle, or Same As. Better Than is “up” and Less…