There’s a word we therapists use all the time—but when I try to explain it to family and friends (even my husband!), it doesn’t always land the way I hope. That word? Regulated. If you’ve been in therapy spaces, chances…
Do you cringe when you tell yourself self-worth affirmations? Keep reading to learn how to cope with this resistance. What is Self-Worth? Self-worth is inherent. It’s the deep-seated belief that you have value simply because you exist. Your worth isn’t…
Big T traumas are the known and spoken abuses and traumas: Little t traumas are the other stuff. I heard this definition of trauma: “overwhelm plus alone.” I mention elsewhere on this site that my 10yr old son may have…
Katherine Center has become one of my new favorite authors. I have read two of her books and I am currently reading the third. This book is called “What You Wish For.” Samantha, known as Sam, is the main character.We…
Yet again, I was reading an article that interested me. Funny, it actually wasn’t even just the article that I wanted to write about; it was one of the comments. The article had this quote: “Seeking affirmation or fulfillment in…
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…
The Vickey Difference What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence? Are they the same thing? Are they different? Do they overlap? They aren’t the same thing, they are different, and I don’t even think I’d call it…
As I’ve been talking about self esteem, I have introduced you to concepts of the Center of Equality and Better Than/Less Than. The Center of Equality is where you say: I stand equal to all. Eye to eye and toe to toe. I am…
We’re all familiar with what “passive” and “aggressive” mean—the two extremes—where one is a person who feels “Less Than” and doesn’t speak from their healthy center about their needs, feelings, and desires, and the other is someone acting from a…
Today I want to focus on the affirmations we tell ourselves from here and the affirmations we need to tell ourselves daily. To be in your healthy center, say: These statements are from the internal core; from here, I have…