Have you ever noticed that your sense of worth shifts depending on who you’re with?Maybe you feel confident and comfortable with one person, but suddenly small or invisible around others. If that sounds familiar, you might be operating from what…
If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ve probably heard me talk about self-esteem—and how we often learn to base it on external factors: achievements, others’ approval, how we look, or what we own. But I want to add…
Today, I want to talk about something I’ve never really touched on before—because honestly, it only recently emerged for me in my own personal therapy. Most people have heard of the fear of abandonment. It gets talked about a lot…
There’s a word we therapists use all the time—but when I try to explain it to family and friends (even my husband!), it doesn’t always land the way I hope. That word? Regulated. If you’ve been in therapy spaces, chances…
Some insights don’t give you an immediate life hack—but they can change how you understand yourself forever. Today, I want to share one of those insights. It’s not a quick tip or a 3-minute skill to practice at home. It’s…
Where Rigidity Lives—and Where Nuance Begins Let’s explore a simple but powerful concept that can help you better understand your brain and how you respond to the world around you. Imagine your brain as a hand. This idea comes from…
Do you cringe when you tell yourself self-worth affirmations? Keep reading to learn how to cope with this resistance. What is Self-Worth? Self-worth is inherent. It’s the deep-seated belief that you have value simply because you exist. Your worth isn’t…
The Salt Story: Understanding Emotional Responses in Relationships When I first encountered Dr. Dan Siegel’s hand model of the brain, coupled with insights from Terry Real and Robin Gobbel, it felt like a lightbulb moment. Their explanations about how our…
Hey there! Today, I want to dive into a topic that’s not just fascinating but incredibly useful when it comes to understanding yourself and others better: brain states. This concept draws from the work of some brilliant minds like Terry…
Big T traumas are the known and spoken abuses and traumas: Little t traumas are the other stuff. I heard this definition of trauma: “overwhelm plus alone.” I mention elsewhere on this site that my 10yr old son may have…