Sometimes insight comes ten years later. This is a longer story than usual, but stay with me — because it illustrates something important about what I call intergenerational legacy. Not trauma. Legacy. There is a difference. The Christmas That Changed…
Lately, I’ve really been enjoying Dax Shepard’s Podcast, The Armchair Expert. I’ve listened to about three or four of them; and in particular, I want to talk about the episodes he did with therapist Phillip Stutz, Anna Kendrick, and Scott Galloway.…
I’m a big fan of Dr. Becky’s “Good Inside” podcast, and I love a concept she talks about. I’m going to share a mental image with you: Picture a huge, beautiful garden filled with benches. Each bench represents a different…
Generational Legacy. That term is becoming more common-place today, thanks to Encanto and Twitter. It simply means negative behavioral patterns get passed to the next generation because we aren’t even aware that we’re doing it. I’m a therapist. I know…
Your brain has implicit and explicit memories. Explicit memories are factual events or information from your past. When you think about these, you actually know you’re remembering something: Your last birthday. Getting your last job offer. The movie you watched…
I went skiing this weekend. I’m not exaggerating when I tell you the last time I skied was 30 years ago. My church youth group went on a ski trip. I don’t remember having lessons—although I look back now and…
Some of my clients know that I’m very religious. They don’t care, as I don’t bring it into the room unless it is relevant. This is one of those times that it is relevant. This past November (2021), just a…
Cheesy as it sounds, there is such inner peace when you have healthy self esteem and healthy boundaries, and that peace leads to healthy and easy decision-making. Last week was our 15th wedding anniversary and we were deciding what to…
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I…
Funny story about timeouts. . . Last weekend I needed my husband to sign the back of a check so I could deposit it through my phone. We both needed to sign it and my full legal name is rather long.…