Big T vs Little t Trauma
Big T traumas are the known and spoken abuses and traumas: Little t traumas are the other stuff. I heard this definition of trauma: “overwhelm plus alone.” I mention elsewhere on this site that my 10yr old son may have…
What You Wish For
Katherine Center has become one of my new favorite authors. I have read two of her books and I am currently reading the third. This book is called “What You Wish For.” Samantha, known as Sam, is the main character.We…
What is Discernment?
It is the ability to understand what is really your “stuff” and what is not – what is the other person’s. Discernment is a part of boundaries. Discernment is the ability to know the answers to these two questions: If…
Call It What You Want—He’s Right
I was talking to someone a few weeks ago. No, I was talking to my children in front of someone. He made the comment that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you, happiness comes from the inside. I responded…
Is it Selfish to be Healthy?
Step out of the Contempt Cycle—for YOU! When you are angry, judgmental, or gossipy, you are in The Contempt Cycle—where you are feeling Better Than or Less Than others. And it’s not a healthy, balanced place to be! What if…
Connection vs. Worth
Yet again, I was reading an article that interested me. Funny, it actually wasn’t even just the article that I wanted to write about; it was one of the comments. The article had this quote: “Seeking affirmation or fulfillment in…
How can I Hurt Someone Else When I’m in Less Than?
Does it seem strange that you could hurt someone else when you’re in low self esteem? One of my therapy couples—the husband, Brandon—had been out of work for awhile and was feeling pretty down on himself for not enjoying that…
The 3 Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW to Feel Better About Yourself
If you find yourself in “Less Than” mode, here are 3 things you can do to feel better RIGHT NOW. In this video, I will tell you all about how these tips work to bring you back into balance!
When Did You Stop Feeling Special?
We have friends who recently had a baby. I kept saying “Oh, there’s this great baby book on self esteem that I want to get for them.” God bless my husband. What he thought (sarcastically), and did not say, was “oh, that…
How to Stop Letting Social Media Make You Feel Crappy
A friend recently gave me his take on the phrase “you are what you eat”: If you substitute “eat” for “consume”, it expands that sentence so much farther. If you look at it as “we are what we consume”, it…