Is It Frustration, Anger, or Rage?
A few years ago, I bought my kids a pillow with an emotional wheel printed on it. At the time, I would hand it to them and say, “Tell me five things you felt today.” They would look, scan the…
Category Boundaries
When Intergenerational Legacy Showed Up for Christmas!
Sometimes insight comes ten years later. This is a longer story than usual, but stay with me — because it illustrates something important about what I call intergenerational legacy. Not trauma. Legacy. There is a difference. The Christmas That Changed…
What is Discernment?
It is the ability to understand what is really your “stuff” and what is not – what is the other person’s. Discernment is a part of boundaries. Discernment is the ability to know the answers to these two questions: If…
How to Stop Letting Social Media Make You Feel Crappy
A friend of mine once said something that’s stuck with me:“You are what you eat… except, what if it’s actually you are what you consume?” Think about that for a second. If “consume” includes everything your brain takes in—not just…
Do You Feel Confident at Work…But Steamrolled at Home?
This is a situation I see all the time with my clients: women who are killin’ it at work, but at home with their spouse, kids, family, and friends, they feel steamrolled, disrespected, or unappreciated—they don’t know how to set…
Why Aren’t You Speaking Your Mind at Home?
I want to tell you about the concrete link on how our self esteem directly affects our decision making. How it holds us back from making the healthy decisions that we know in our gut to be right for us.…
Boundaries…They Aren’t What you Think!
I We hear a lot about boundaries these days.“Set boundaries.”“Protect your peace.”“Block toxic people.” But here’s the thing: a lot of what we call “boundaries” are actually something else entirely. Let’s clear it up. Wait, That’s Not a Boundary? If…
What if You Can’t Find the Words?
Last Friday, I was at my kickboxing class, and we went to do a set that involved some back kicks. This was a team thing, and I guess I got this look on my face: 😧 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀…Because my partner was clearly thinking…
Eventually, We Get Tapped Out
“You can only care about other people’s stuff so much.” A client said this in session and I wrote it down. I just found it to be such a powerful statement. This, my friends, is a great pro-boundary statement. For…
Imposter Syndrome? Or Low Self Esteem?
Imposter Syndrome? Or low Self-Esteem? They are so similar and often confused. Kind of like how all rectangles are squares and not all squares are rectangles. Imposter syndrome is always low Self-Esteem. Low Self-Esteem is not always Imposter Syndrome. Here’s…