A Funny Story About Time Outs
Funny story about timeouts. . . Last weekend I needed my husband to sign the back of a check so I could deposit it through my phone. We both needed to sign it and my full legal name is rather long.…
This is how I survived that house
This is how I survived that house. When I said that statement in session this week, I was specifically referring to myself and my client at that moment. And then I realized the sentence likely serves for most people. “That…
The 3 Things We Are Looking For in Our Partner
We are all really looking for three things in our partner: I know these sound extreme and simplistic. I also know it is true: these are the things we are all looking for deep down, if we allow ourselves to…
Practice makes perfect…
Let’s talk in cliché’s for a moment: Easier said than done. Practice makes perfect. When teaching new skills to my clients, new ways of thinking, and/or new behaviors, I often hear “Well, that’s easier said than done.” No, it’s not.…
Curiosity instead of Defensiveness
Meet your partner with curiosity instead of defensiveness. Can you do this? Do you do it often? I’ve said before there are 3 Core Tenants to Living Relationally: (there’s another post in here with that exact title) While I still…
Health Benefits of Displaying Family Photos at Home
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The Three Modes of Negotiation
Relational Life Therapy Recognizes Three Modes of Negotiation: Invitation Request Demand An Invitation is all about the other person. I “invite” you to do this and it is completely up to you if you participate or not. I was watching…
Relational Life Therapy was born…
As I’ve said, I am certified in a method of Couples’ Therapy called Relational Life Therapy, created by Terry Real. And while already certified, I am also on a coaching call 3x/month to better my skills. I *really* love this…
Shame vs Guilt
Let’s look again at guilt vs shame. According to Brene Brown, “guilt” is behaviorable and actionable, “fixable.” **I did a bad thing “Shame,” on the other hand, is character-ological (is that a word? ), it’s who I am **I am…
Some Thoughts on the Movie “Soul”
Who’s seen the movie “Soul?” If you haven’t, what I’m posting here shouldn’t give anything away… For those who have, that scene near the end, where 22 is talking to herself really spoke to me: *I’m not good enough. Nope.…